IVF Vs The Catholic Church

Posted on May 10, 2011 by admin

I’m Catholic, well I was. I stopped going to church about 3 years ago due to lack of a church that felt like home to me. I will not go to church just to go. For a short period of time, several years ago, after we found out that IVF is our only chance on getting pregnant, I went into deep thought about IVF & the Catholic Church.

I wondered if my God really would punish me for choosing love. Yes, my husband and I can not conceive by the “normal” act but choosing IVF is no less filled with love to me. I actually think those that need to use IVF know love on a deeper level because the cost is high. I’m not talking about money either.

I know what the church teaches, they say it is wrong. They accuse one of acting like a god when one has to use IVF to make a family. No, I am trying to be god at all, I am trying to use science that God has given us to help us make our family.

Yes, one can adopt. I have nothing against adopting. I’ve considered it and still do. I do not believe it is our christian duty to HAVE to adopt. Adoption should be a loving choice, just like IVF. Neither should be made in haste, and neither is wrong.

I read an ARTICLE this morning that kind of prompted me to write this post. I know I am not here daily, weekly or even monthly writing on here. Infertility consumes my life as it is but I love to be able to come here when I feel I need to or want to write.

I’ve read the book that Sean & his wife wrote. It is an amazing story of love and commitment. Whether I understand their feelings about rights to the child they had to give back to the biological parents, I still understand love & responsibility.

The article is beautifully written by Sean. I could not have said any of it better myself. I understand and agree with everything he says in this article. I believe our church has failed us. I also feel our so called “christian” brothers and sisters in the church have also failed us. If you read all the comments given to Sean about his article, you will read hate, loathing and anger. There are several people who stand by Sean but for the most part, these so called family in Christ are cruel, heartless, self absorbed, paper waving people. WRONG.

God is love, Adoption is love, Foster parenting is love, IVF is love!

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Pretty Sure

Posted on February 11, 2011 by admin

I am pretty sure no one reads this blog anymore. Well, I understand as I do not post regularly at all. But I like knowing this blog is here for me, when I need to or want to say something.

It’s stressful wanting to have a family for 9 years now and still nothing. Everything costs money, a lot of it too. I am sure our time will come. Not sure when or in what form, but I know eventually we will become parents and have our family.

We are making a huge move, not from state to state but from the United States to another country. I’d rather keep where private, at least for now. So I’ve been consumed with moving and the joy of change and going someplace new.

My sister is now pregnant with baby #4. I love my sister. I am happy for her that she has kids, lots of them and can get pregant by looking at her husband. Really, I am happy for her BUT it still hurts. One reason living away from family makes things a little easier in some ways.

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One Year Passed

Posted on October 11, 2010 by admin

Well as one might have noticed, my last post was in July of 2009, we are now almost in 2011. I just got a comment and realized how long it has actually been. Not much has changed since my last post. To answer a question…NO we have not given up, we have a lot going on and when it is the right time, it will be!

Who knows what 2011 will bring! I choose to keep this domain so when our journey continues, I have a place to come back to and share. I know I have not been around, nor supportive to others in being absent but I am at a point in my life that things are great & about to get even better, outside of TTC. There is no giving up though! I am sorry to all those who followed this blog, I will eventually be back.

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Here & There

Posted on July 26, 2009 by admin

I am still around, not really connected to the IF community at the moment. Only because it will be a while till we can do things plus it is really stressful. I have a lot going on in other areas of life, at least this is one area and I kind of walk away from and disconnect. I know that sounds bad but it has been a long road already and not much to show so keeping a distance helps sometimes.

It keeps my mind healthy to let some things go that have to do with IF every once in a while. But I am still here and I am happy for all of you whom are expecting, you have walked the road and have been lucky enough to walk away with a prize.

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Happy & Sad

Posted on June 23, 2009 by admin

Wow, I have been taking a break from reading IF blogs and I come to find out many of you recently got pregnant. How depressing. Yes, I said depressing and you all very well know why and I don’t feel the need to explain myself on that. However, I am very happy for all of you whom are pregnant and I wish you all the very best.

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Some Changes

Posted on June 21, 2009 by admin

I decided to change the look of the blog and go with a more “neat” look…So don’t be alarmed. I now have to fix it up a bit and change links and such. It will give me something to work on as well, busy is good & change is sometimes good.

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Moving Movies

Posted on June 20, 2009 by admin

I’m still around, still trying to get used to hubby not being here, tomorrow marks 2 weeks since he left. Still is not getting any easier, but I knew it wouldn’t.

I’ve been watching more movies than in the past and I guess it has been my “lucky” week. I am saying lucky in a very sarcastic way. All the movies I keep running into are about infertility.

I know, I have the choice to change the channel, to ignore it, but I always get sucked in. I just love how far off Hollywood can be sometimes with their infertile facts. I actually laughed at certain points in this movie today because the things that happened were just so “easy”.

You know, easy as in “Well if you adopt, you will most likely get pregnant”, that kind of silly, weirdness. I also love how they make adoption look. They always make it look and seem miserable, but it only takes them like 2 weeks to bring home a  bouncing little baby & all they have to do is sign their names on a piece of paper. NOT REALISTIC.

But, we cry at these movies anyways, why…because their outcome is what we all want, to bring home a baby!

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Lonely Road

Posted on June 11, 2009 by admin

Hello Ladies, so sorry it has been a while yet again since I’ve posted. Although I did state that things would be slow here for a reason.

Daniel left on Sunday for a 6 month deployment over seas and well, it has not been easy. It never is no matter how much you prepare.

So for now it is me and my 3 pups!

I am keeping busy spending time with my pups, reading, writing and The Sims 3! If your not playing The Sims 3, go buy it, you wont regret it! So much fun.

One thing I find so funny (gag) is that in The Sims 3, you can buy fertility treatments and you end up with twins and sometimes triplets. Even with that, I love the game and it consumes all my lonely hours and when I can not sleep.

Not much else to report on now. I hope you are all well. I have taken a break from visiting IF blogs but please don’t think I have forgotten about you, because I have not. Sometimes it is healthy to step away from it all for a bit.

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It’s Okay

Posted on June 1, 2009 by admin

I know it might sound really weird or odd but today I feel at peace with my infertility. Even if it is only for a short time. No, I am not giving up or giving in.

My husband is leaving this week for 6 months over seas, in a way this is what is freeing me and making me at peace with my infertility, for now. As there really is nothing that can be done, especially by myself.

So even though I am beside myself over my husband leaving and so sad, there is some emotional relief at least with IF.

Sorry I do not blog here often, the situation is at a point right now where we can’t do anything anyways and we have to wait, how long? I don’t know exactly. It could be about 2 years or maybe more.

Right now we are trying to figure out what is our next step, if we should continue down the road we have been taking, or go off on a different one.

I will blog here when the need arises and pertains to Infertility as this is the sole reason for this blog. So please bare with me as there will be long stretches of silence on this blog. I do hope one day in the future, that it will be bustling daily with updates on what we are doing to become parents.

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30

Posted on May 26, 2009 by admin

Yesterday was my 30th birthday. It came with a mix of feelings and emotions. Most of them not good. It does not feel good to be 30 and still not have any children. It hurts, it hurts a lot.

I tried not to think if it much yesterday so I tucked it away, but it still hurt.

The evening ended up being nice, not weather wise but we went and saw fireworks, it was for Memorial Day, but I’d like to think they were for me,lol!

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